I was a junior in college working for the college security office. It was Christmas break and I had worked an eighteen hour shift and was working on about five hours of sleep. As I was beginning my next shift I received word that the college president requested to see me in his office. I went to his office, spoke with him for a few moments, and completed the task. Later that day I flew home to celebrate Christmas and New Years with my family. Classes resumed the first week of January and so did my work schedule.
It was the first day of classes after break and also my first shift back to work. Midmorning I received a text from my sergeant letting me know our department chief wanted to speak with me after classes. The morning went by, I went to my dorm to put my books and supplies away and went to the security office. I informed our chief’s assistant about the text and she escorted me to his office where he told me to take a seat in one of his leather guest chairs. I will never forget that brief meeting.
Pause. I may have omitted a slight detail from the story in the first paragraph. Yes I worked eighteen hours, and yes, I was working off of five-ish hours of sleep. I also didn’t shave that morning I reported for work, which, I didn’t see as a problem considering it was Christmas break AND I had shaved two days prior. For full context, I attended a very conservative school for ministry. One of the rules was men were to always be clean shaven.
Back to the meeting. For the fifteen or so minutes I was in my chief’s office, he berated me, questioned my character, and said something that haunts me to this day. He looked me dead in the face and said “You will do nothing for the cause of Christ.” From that point on I made sure I was clean shaven at all times. I made sure my shoes were shined properly. I worked on making sure the perfect dimple was in my tie at all times. Also from that point on, I began to believe I would do nothing for the cause of Christ.
That incident happened almost 13 years ago. Want to know a secret? I can still picture his face and hear the tone of his voice. I can still see his fist pounding the desk. I can still hear his verdict on my future. Why? Because of a biblical principle in Proverbs 18:21: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”
Many of us were taught as children “sticks and stone may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” As much as I wish that were so, the words spoken on that January afternoon in 2009 echo in the recesses of my mind today in September 2021. A part of my spirit died that day. I was ready to quit college. I was ready to pack up and move back home. Why? Because words do hurt. They hurt a lot more than we think.
Because of that truth, we should take every opportunity we can to speak life into people and situations. In every interaction you have the opportunity to give life or death by way of your words. What will you choose? Death or life?
Some of you need to write that note of encouragement. Others need to make that phone call. What greater investment can you make in someone other than giving them life? Parents, edify your kids. There is a tremendous amount of negativity in our world. Shine some light and brighten their life. Spouses, build one another up. We all have quirks, failures, and issues. Sidestep them and bright life to your life partner. Friends, be there for one another. Speak life into each other.
I’m a fan of superhero movies–Marvel, not DC 🙂 Outside of the utter destruction that occurs in those movies, there is something comforting, something invigorating, something exciting when the hero comes out on top. You have more power than Captain America, Tony Stark and all his gadgets, or Doctor Strange and all his…whatever he does. Today, right now, you can provide life or death to someone’s spirit. I find it amazing that as He was approaching His last moments of physical life, our Savior extended forgiveness and mercy to those around Him.
Give life. Speak life. Make a difference in someone’s life. Do it today.